I’m listening to Andy Brashear (Kentucky’s Governor) do his 5:00 pm speech for the who-knows-what-th day that we have been on “Healthy at Home”. Yeah, I do my posts and use my hashtags. As supportive as I am of coming together throughout this whole thing I can’t help to feel this overwhelming feeling of “I’M SO FUCKING TIRED OF THIS SHIT!” lol.
I am. I’m tired of it. And I bet I’m not the only one either. Now, I LOVE being at home. I love working from home and I love being home with my kid and my husband. But I hate being scared of some virus. I hate feeling stuck or so limited like we are. I also hate seeing my kid so bored and begging to go do things that we can’t do. It’s hard. It’s very hard. This whole thing has come with some interesting challenges to say the least. But I think I have found a few tips that have have really helped me survive this time so far. I have been struggling with my mental health as much as anyone else. Depression, anxiety, ptsd, awful dreams, lost memory, and lack of focus. The pandemic mental health crisis is getting severe and it’s time for us to all learn a little bit of these skills that have been able to help me improve my wellness during this time.
1.) Do what is right for you during this time
Some people are working non stop remotely from their home office and that is helping them maintain a sense of normality. Other people are still working in the field and others are off work right now. I know that many of us do not have a choice as to which one of these options we want to do, but if you are financially, mentally, and emotionally able to choose one for yourself I suggest taking a look at your personality, mental health needs, family situation, so on and so forth in order to do the best thing for you and your current situation. I was working remotely for another company and had to make the decision to take a break from that job right now and just be home because it was too difficult to work and be a mom at the same time all day long. I’m finding myself to me much more happy and balanced now and my mental health has improved drastically. Check with your jobs, insurance, and things like that to see what benefits you have during this time.
2.) Balance out your day with scheduled work and play
While struggling with my mental health during Quarantine I will catch myself laying around all day one day and then going hard cleaning and organizing the next, then a whole day of talking to people on the phone and then a day of no communication at all. I began balancing all the different activities and things I can do to stay sane and happy while Quarantine-ing (?? that is so not a word lol) and trying to make sure I touch on a broad range of different things throughout each day instead. I have loved how full and dimensional my days feel now that divide my time up amongst all the stuff.
3.) Get physical
Okay, I know this is so obvious and has been said by every governor in every state and by every life coach or teacher on social media, but it’s because it’s SO IMPORTANT! We have so much anxiety right now over this pandemic and our bodies are flooded with chemicals that are signaling our brains to RUUUUUUUUNNNNNNN! So give your body what it thinks it needs and move around every day for a least a little while. You will feel that anxiety let up pretty fast. You’ll thank yourself afterwards, and hey… if you come out on the otherside of the Pandemic with nice abs or round booty that doesn’t hurt either does it? lol
4.) Drink a beer, but not too often.
Liquor stores are considered essential business and THANK GOD for that right? But Alcohol might not be your best friend right now with the added anxiety and depression caused by covid. Alcohol is a depressant and can actually worsen those mental health problems you’re having right now. So can caffeine. Now don’t get all defensive, but that coffee and wine or redbull and beer might be adding fuel to the mental health fire right now. I’m not saying don’t drink them *rolls eyes* I mean, I’m not a monster lol. I’m just saying moderate moderate moderate! Be careful how much of these substances you are consuming and be mindful of how they are effecting your mood. If you’re finding your symptoms are getting worse then cutting back might be what you need.
5.) Try virtual counseling, therapy, or coaching
Virtual counseling, therapy, and coaching is more readily available now than ever! So what a better time to try it out? You’re already stressed and depressed and having a professional to talk to who can really help you through this is a great tool to surviving the pandemic. Check with your health insurance and HR departments to see what options are available for you. You may even check out that awesome deal that the really really cool life coach chick has going on right now *cough* me *cough*. (insert shameless promo) http://www.iamrockl.com. 🙂
6.) Talk Talk Talk, Skype Skype Skype
Talking to your friends and family on the phone, facetime, skype, zoom, facebook messenger and whatever other technologies we have in 2020 is a great way to stay feeling connected while we are all having to stay apart. Try staying in touch with all your usual folks and it’s even a great time to reach out to those buddies who you haven’t talked to in a while. You could even take up another form of communication like a daily blog, facebook post expressing your feelings, or a start a youtube vlog about your experience. Expression and connection are the keys here.
7.) Cook new things or meditate, ya know the things you don’t normally have time for.
I’ve been getting really inspired in the kitchen to try cooking things that I don’t normally have the motivation, inspiration, or time to cook. I’ve been meditating more and working on projects that have been collecting dust. It’s that time. The time to focus on all the things that you never had time to focus on before. Get caught up on that scrapbook or re-decorating the bathroom (yup i did that one too). It’s fun, productive, and you get to feel successful during a time that has left us all feeling a little well, not so useful. Except for the essential workers of course lol
8.) Find a new hobby
If that last one made you wrinkle your brow then you might need to find a new hobby. Make some masks, start a journal, learn guitar, try baking, download tik tok, or read some new books. Make a list of all the things you have wanted to try or do and just haven’t yet and get to knocking them off the list one by one.
9.) Allow yourself to be fucked up about it
This one is super important. Like, just let yourself be a hot mess sometimes. I know most of my advice is really self helpy (also not a real word). But not judging ourselves and how we are handling a GLO-BAL PAN-DEM-IC…is the best thing to do. If you haven’t been able to “make the most of it” or “use this time productively” then that’s ok too. If you completely ignore all of the blogs (including mine) drink a lot, do nothing but watch netflix, and eat movie theater butter popcorn smothered in extra buttery spray from a weird aerosol (that I know nothing about of course lol) then that’s ok too. You are worthy and awesome and I’m so proud of you for just surviving it. You’ll get through it and you will be ok.
10.) Be present with yourself and your family
The hardest thing to do right now is just be present. Probably because we are so centered around questions that deal with the future. “When will all of this be over?” “when will I get my damn stimulus check?” “What will the ‘new normal’ look like” and so on and so forth. But if you can learn to resist the urge to wander off into the future and just be right here, right now, with yourself and with your family and embrace the time for what it is. Whether the time is good and you’re having a blast reading all of Trumps tweets each morning or you’re basking in self loathing in front of the TV. Just let it be what it is. It is a globabl pandemic, we are social distancing, we all feel lots of stuff, it’s crazy, it’s weird, and it’s unsure and scary. But it is what it is and we can choose to INHALE through your nose (go ahead actually do it right now while reading this) HOLD that breathe in your lungs, then simply LET IT GO out of your mouth. Be grateful that you have that breath and be in this moment. You are safe right here right now and right now you’re ok.
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Rachel D. Greenwell
Life & Spiritual Coach | Author | Creator 💚